I have hundreds of games Apex is the only one red connection symbols and lagging

It has red connection symbols and lagging every game.  I get none of these major ongoing issues when i play any other EA title any Battlefields , Titanfalls (I own them all) or any brand game for that matter other huge lobby battle Royal all play fine (fortnite) .  My internet is supposedly great they replaced the ONT.  I replaced my Xbox one OG with a new Xbox S.  You can't turnoff crossplay.  I've tried every server, the London server with a ping of 110 and Amsterdam with over 120 lag less than my stateside ping servers ranging 21-89 but still aren't good.  It makes no sense.   It's been like this 3 years.  It's driving me crazy.  I get no answers.