we both have ive sat in discord and made him check everything multiple times. if he had problems on his end i wouldnt be able to join him and i am able to invite him to rush n he can join i cant play rivials or frendlies with him EA_Darko​ 

this has been a issue for 3 months or more. xrayn22​ has reported this same issue a few times with no solution under any of the posts. ill put what he said here. its the same issue with me. below is what he posted with no solution months ago.  

I am encountering a consistent issue with cross-play invitations between myself (on PS5) and my friend (on PC). I am able to successfully send an invitation to my PC friend in both Ultimate Team (for co-op modes) and Online Seasons (for online friendlies), and they can join my lobby without any problems.

However, my PC friend is unable to send me (on PS5) an invitation in either of these game modes. When they attempt to invite me, either the invitation is not received on my PS5, or they encounter an error message (details of specific error messages from the PC player's perspective would be helpful to add here if known).

Steps to Reproduce:

 * Both players launch FC 25 on their respective platforms (PS5 and PC).

 * Both players ensure they are online and visible as friends within the EA Social interface.

 * Scenario 1 (Working):

   * Player 1 (PS5) navigates to Ultimate Team or Online Seasons.

   * Player 1 (PS5) invites Player 2 (PC) to a co-op session or online friendly.

   * Player 2 (PC) successfully receives the invitation and can join Player 1's (PS5) lobby.

 * Scenario 2 (Not Working):

   * Player 2 (PC) navigates to Ultimate Team or Online Seasons.

   * Player 2 (PC) attempts to invite Player 1 (PS5) to a co-op session or online friendly.

   * Player 1 (PS5) either does not receive any invitation, or Player 2 (PC) receives an error message preventing the invitation from being sent successfully.

Expected Result: PC players should be able to successfully invite PS5 players to supported cross-play game modes, just as PS5 players can currently invite PC players.

Actual Result: Invitations from PC to PS5 are consistently failing, preventing my friend from hosting games in Ultimate Team co-op and Online Seasons friendlies. This forces me (the PS5 player) to always be the host. Both players have restarted FC 25 and their respective gaming platforms.

 * Both players have checked their EA Social status and appear online to each other.

 * Cross-play is enabled on both accounts.

 * Network connection is stable on both platforms.

This issue significantly hinders the cross-play experience, as the ability to invite should be reciprocal between platforms. We've noticed similar reports on forums, indicating this might be a more widespread problem affecting PC players trying to invite console players.

Please investigate this bug to ensure a seamless cross-play invitation system for all players in FC 25.