the "BLACK-WIDOW-CHALLENGE" ♥♥(( with EXTRA Challenges ))♥♥

OK, question... I feel like it's weird to move the new partner in while married, because the funds transfer first (before she marries the new guy). Is it OK to get caught cheating once the "ask to move in" option is there for the new relationship?

I'd like my black widow to move into each new husband's house, having them move in before she's a new widow doesn't make sense for that type of play.

Also, with the single husband aspect... Is it cheating to go through and make all rich male sims single before starting the gameplay? Or at least separate their households so they are living alone, or should I just do that as I go along/find new prospects?