make "feminine" and "masculine" traits available for both sim frames

i can't make a woman sim with facial hair or a man sim with breasts without using mods or custom content. this is both intersexist and not trans inclusive. trans men who do not want top surgery exist, trans women with facial hair exist, and intersex people with varying features exist. i cannot make myself and my loved ones in the sims 4 unless i mod it. it would be a lot more enjoyable if i could more accurately design trans/nonbinary/intersex sims based on actual features and not just clothing preference or whether or ot they can pee standing.

multiple pronoun sets would also be nice: multiple choice select and deselect pronouns and saveable custom pronoun sets would be great.