So, I had my Simself become the girlfriend of a Sim who was "Not In World", named by the game as one "Hideki Fujiwara". Great! Then, HE spontaneously asked the two to move in together (Not sure if this is because I have both Parenthood and Growing Together ep's, or if it's something they added to the basegame). So, I had her agree, and moved him in with her. Great!Now, the not so great. One of his traits is Erratic. Which I thought (And so did my Simself *LOL*) actually made him kinda charming. But twice now, sim days apart, he's rolled the Want to break up with her! Twice! I just didn't fulfill it either time, and the next time he slept then woke up, the want was replaced by something else. Phew! And I mean, these two have FULL Friendship AND Romantic bars as well!But...Now I'm wondering...He's not rolled the want again since I had the two of them get engaged (I had her propose to him, and he gladly accepted *Surprising for a Sim that wanted to break up with her twice before that!*) and then get married. My question for my fellow Simmers here is simple...What should I do if he rolls the want again?

I'm going to be unhelpful and say do whatever makes your story the most interesting to you. Whatever you would find the most fun to play out... go with that.And what you find most interesting the next time you check the poll may not be what you find most interesting the next time you play. :)That said, I never play my simself, so I never have that sort of connection to the sims I do play. (She exists in world, but I don't play her.)

Do sims get the Break Up want once they're married? I can't remember if that is a thing that happens.Maybe he was getting cold feet before the wedding and now he's okay :)Or maybe option #5 in your poll is starting to take on some interesting storytelling possibilities for you?

I think you might want to try and do all of the above with different saves.You may find each option entertaining in it's own way. Plus, you will never be wondering, "what if...". B)

I think my real answer should maybe have been Other.If he rolls the want again, I would have them break up. However... if it were me, I would have him briefly date the librarian, but continue to spend lots of time with your simself because of their child. Then eventually realize that the grass is not greener, and he wants her back. During this process, I would also have him work on changing the Erratic trait to something more responsible, through either Growing Together traits gameplay, or a combination of gameplay and cheats. Then he could work hard to woo your simself back.

Disable Wants and Fears, they are only misleading. You know your sims and what they want, the game can only make educated guesses.

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susanleona
Seasoned Traveler
12 months ago
I had a couple where the husband wanted to break up often, but then he got electrocuted and she was able to plead with Death to save his life. They are still together and have a kid. Sometimes those wants and fears are annoying and I get rid of them if they don't make sense in my stories. Ditto character traits.
Ayradyss
Seasoned Rookie
11 months ago
Personally, I'd totally ignore the want to break up. Sims 4 AI is primitive and fairly ludicrous, IMO. If a Sim is in a committed relationship, they will always get the want to get out of it. If they're not, they will always get the want to enter into one. It doesn't matter if the relationship (or lack thereof) is good or bad, if it fits their personality or not -- they just always want the opposite thing. If they don't have a plumbing bee-box, they'll harass you with wants to buy one until the end of time, etc.

In a nutshell, always have them do what YOU want them to do.
MstyBL95
11 months ago
If it was my game, I'd let him break up with her. His trait is erratic so even if he seems like a dream, he's unstable and will make disastrous life choices. It's his character flaw.

But you can also play it another way...if they are in complete love, you can make it so his wife keeps him grounded and works hard to stay together.

Or let them break up and then get back together eventually after he learns how dumb he was.
GalacticGal
Seasoned Ace
11 months ago
What you may be missing here, is his possible sense of insecurity. Perhaps, he's been hurt before, even after a relationship got to the point where your Simself and he have gotten. So, the reaction was he was going to beat this new love to the punch. Since things obviously went wrong with a prior relationship, he's not going to be the one dumped.

Wouldn't have a thing to do with his feelings for his now wife. I think you should keep them together. They do have a child on the way, they both owe it to 'junior' to make it work.
OldeSimsFan
New Traveler
11 months ago
The original name of the erratic trait was insane. Which makes me wonder if it would be considered a lawful marriage due to his not being capable of making a legally binding agreement. Likewise wonder if he really knows what he wants in any part of life. I know a fellow in RL that married a woman in the same condition and his life was miserable until she passed 11 years later. He's still trying to undo the damage. I know this is Sims, not reality, but wouldn't want that sort of thing to happen again.
ber5nie5
12 months ago
"Eleri;c-18333120" wrote:
"EnkiSchmidt;c-18333010" wrote:
Disable Wants and Fears, they are only misleading. You know your sims and what they want, the game can only make educated guesses.

@EnkiSchmidt Educated? Really? Looks to me like the game got its education from Wossamotta U.

LOL :p
jazzyrocksoul88
Rising Rookie
11 months ago
I chose "other" but could've chosen "keep them together" because I always ignore the breakup whims if I the couple goes well enough together. It's probably a somewhat random whim anyway.
wildirishbanshee
Rising Novice
11 months ago
I play semi-wants based, so yeah, if it rolls a third time I might go with it, depending on the save. My legacy/genetacy couples are together for life - the rest, meh.

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