Way off Topic- I'm a Nana..........soon

Annathewicked

All of this, of course, is easy to say from the sidelines, but...

Above all else, what she needs from her mother is unconditional love. Support and guide her as best you can, but always let her know that they will always be loved.

Annathewicked

Yes, that part I'm on........... I handled the shock quite well, and no yelling or telling her how disappointed I am - went through that with my mom - not putting my kid through that - it makes one resentful.

Otherwise - have very little planning time... wish she hadn't waited to say something - babies take planning

ianmia

As a grandpa at 31 (Step-daughter) i can fully sympathise with you. And can only wish you good luck with everything and hope the Father and his Family are also going to be helpful.

HappyGamer73

Sounds like you're off to a great start as a wonderful grandmother (and a pretty great mother, too)! She'll need as much guidance as you can give (and she'll take) as far as all the little things that are needed for a newborn. So much of that depends on her exact circumstances that all I can say is trust your judgement. You can probably find support groups and such for her through the doctor/hospital/midwife/etc. that are meant to help young mothers get a good start. Even getting to know other young mothers can be helpful just to let her know she's not alone. Don't let her kid herself that this is going to be easy, but let her know that somehow you will together make it work.

Check local classifieds and websites for gently used baby furniture, clothing and other items. You can probably get some pretty good deals and won't have to wait for out-of-stock items.

IckabodSchrek

Just when life is suppose to get somewhat simpler...the children grow up. Sounds like you are handling it well. Make sure she has a doctor? To make sure she and the baby are ok.

mathumster385

From a strictly financial point of view, I'd say shop the thrift stores and Goodwill type places looking for bargains.

And congrats on becoming a grandma. Even on short notice, I'll bet that somehow when the baby comes, you'll find yourself strangely prepared. I sorta believe that things have a way of working out.

And good luck, Anna.

suetopia

Wow - that's a lot to deal with on short notice! Good that you are being supportive, tho (although not surprising - you have always struck me as a pretty good person and I'm not surprised that it filters down into your parenting). Your support will mean everything to your daughter.

Not much advice I can really give, but wanted to say good luck with everything. I'm sure that you will be a really good grandma to the little one.

notDepressed

Have the father arrested as clearly she's underage.
Vote for Trump to make America great again (common sense 'use protection when engaged in sex' as clearly this wasn't taught).
To the person who suggested Goodwill - good god I forget sometimes where I am. Sad.
Hopefully this doesn't change her plans to attend college (you won't get very far without it).
Above everything else, make sure you seek help on a game forum as this makes total sense.
unreal.

Annathewicked

notDepressed wrote:

Have the father arrested as clearly she's underage.
Vote for Trump to make America great again (common sense 'use protection when engaged in sex' as clearly this wasn't taught).
To the person who suggested Goodwill - good god I forget sometimes where I am. Sad.
Hopefully this doesn't change her plans to attend college (you won't get very far without it).
Above everything else, make sure you seek help on a game forum as this makes total sense.
unreal.

You forgot troll posts picking at things I clearly do not understand or even know what I'm talking about - since I don't know the person/people I'm bad mouthing. You have No clue what I have taught my kid - and teaching and Following what we're taught is different. And I posted here, since I do feel close to some of these people, even though we have not met, and maybe just needed a little piece in my sudden chaos with some nice advice........................... Go troll someone else. You don't know me :evil:

Annathewicked

Everyone else - Thank you much.
I appreciate all the congrats. The advice has been much down the road(s) I am thinking..... Luckily we live in a place where there is a lot of help for teens in this situation.
Seriously, thank you all.

9d51ca2b37f2d94f

I can't imagine how difficult it was for her to come out and tell you. She knew the moment would eventually come, and was probably hesitant and scared. And rightly so! It's a huge life change for the whole family, and emotions can run very strong when things like this happen.

Putting myself in her shoes, I would be begging for much needed support from my friends and loved ones, despite what others may think or say. It's a huge surprise for sure, but I'm certain you will be very excited to welcome your new granddaughter/grandson to the family.

One thing is for sure: your daughter is lucky to have you.
#coolestgrandmaever

Best wishes, AnnaTW.

maryclaire1

Reach out to your friends and family. People really do want to help, but need to know how. It sounds like your daughter has your full and unconditional love and support and that is the most meaningful thing you can give her right now. Support groups are helpful for tips/advice and simply knowing that she is not alone, and that others have walked in her shoes. Little ones have a way of bringing such joy to our lives! Good luck!

rosesgirlnz

It sounds like you're doing everything you can to be supportive Anna, and that's the most important thing she will need.
Do you have anyone to support you? (apart from us lovely people of course).

I can only imagine what a surprise this has been for you, but I also sense that this new baby already has one grandmother who will love him/her unconditionally from day one.

It must have been very hard for your daughter to tell you, which is why I imagine she left it so long. How many weeks is she?

Annathewicked

Thanks again all!!

Little update - it would appear Its a Boy......... about 31 weeks along. Everything looking really healthy so far.

HappyGamer73

Wow, congrats! Gotta say - the title update scared me a little - though the little guy had already made his entrance into the world. At least you've still got a little bit of time to get ready. All the best to everyone there!

IckabodSchrek

Congratulations Anna, and that's really great news. I hope the shock has subsided and been replaced with excitement !! You will be a wonderful Grandma and already are a great Mom. I hope you guys had a big celebration yesterday?

SquirrelLadd

First and foremost..Congrats to you both.
You don't have long but just try to spend the time getting as much organised as possible.
Exciting times ahead

suetopia

Annathewicked wrote:

Thanks again all!!

Little update - it would appear Its a Boy......... about 31 weeks along. Everything looking really healthy so far.

Glad to hear that everything is looking healthy!

Will send some good luck vibes to you and your daughter

Muhsterino

Congrats Anna, it probably feels scary and exciting at the same time! Glad to hear that the pregnancy is progressing well.
You don't have much time to prepare before he is born, so I hope you can get some things sorted beforehand.
My daughter, 25, gave birth 4 weeks ago. Even though one of her previous jobs was a nursery nurse, so she has had experience with babies and little ones, she is finding it tough at times. I'm sure that any help you and other family members can give your daughter will be invaluable. Good luck and best wishes.

LPLeach

Hold on...
So your going to be called Nana Anna??

IckabodSchrek

LPLeach wrote:

Hold on...
So your going to be called Nana Anna??

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