OT - Preparing for a baby
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Nice good luck with it all 
I don't know what it's like to have a baby since I'm male lol
I don't know what it's like to have a baby since I'm male lol
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1. Accept, like Homer, you will be bottom of the priority list.
2. Start saving for University now.
My advice to you as a man? Stay farrrrrrr away from her. Sometimes I want to give my hubby a stone cold stunner for no reason at all.
New daddy!
New daddy!
I'm so excited for you.
Our son is 10, they grow up so fast. Word of advice? Take tons of photos, videos, and keep all their drawings.
OK....my best bit of advice? Ignore the advice of others. Every child is different and what worked for one probably won't work for another. So just trust your instincts and do what you think is best. Trust yourself, you will be fine.
There really is nothing you can do to prepare because you have no idea what his/her personality will be like. So just go with the flow and do what I call "organic" parenting. That means (to me) that you trust your instincts and tailor your parenting to the individual child.
Congrats!
Dealing with a first child is like being thrown into the deep end of the pool with minimal swimming skills. You may think you are prepared, but you're really not.
Iam 28 and have two beautiful boys I had my 1st at 23 he is now 6, the 1st time is quite scary but your instincts take over, you have to be there for each other and share the work load. When I mean that take it in turns getting up in the middle of the night, depends how lucky you are my first son woke up about 3 times in the middle of the night and my second boy who is now 3 would need a feed just before we went to bed and he would sleep right through to 6 am so that was quite a relief, but the main thing to watch out for is the post natal depression,some woman deal with it pretty heavy. My partner was quite good but my Missis friend was bad with it. The key there is to help her with everything as much as possible, and I know you will be under a lot of stress as I presume you will be working and juggling this at the same time. Patience is the biggest key to the whole thing and you will probably find your wife going bonkers at everything. The best thing is just to agree(as us men are always wrong lol) no matter how much of a pain it can be. One of the biggest issues is your friends have to understand you have a bigger commitment now than just going out and getting wasted all the time (that's if you did that) but your life now will change for ever. At first you might not be able to handle it mentally but I tell ya what, they go through all different stages that just make you go " wow I can't Beleive this,this is my own I have created" it's awesome man and my two boys are into exactly what I was when I was a kid it's so cool. My 6 yr old son watches the simpsons and says "dad did you see this one when you were a kid" but you have to have a bag packed ready to go as she could at anytime near her due date. I remember when my Missis was ready to go we went to my mothers house as she was a nurse in the navy because my Missis was fealing quite sick, then she was getting savage pains, so of to the hospital we went at 9:30 pm I stayed up all night and all of the following day to welcome my first child into the world at 5:30 pm the next day she was in labour for like 17hrs,but iam sure you will have loads of wonderful family to help you both through this. All the best with it mate and once again congratulations.
Thanks, she's going to be a blessing for sure, and your advice is really how we planned on parenting. Wifey and I have talked about it. Of course we'll listen to suggestions, but hopefully we have a good plan.
emmcee, We're having a little girl. I never thought I'd ever paint anything pink...but here we are lol. The post natal depression is what worries me most, but I've been nothing but supportive of my wife thus far, and she knows that she can always rely on me. We also have great communication so if something is bothering her she comes to me immediately. I hope this continues after the baby girl arrives.
Congratulations to the both of you !!!!!!!
Is it a boy or girl
Lol yeah emotions are a big thing, especially when expecting a girl (I am too). I can burst into tears if my husband sneezes too loud lol
Honestly the best thing you can do is be there for her and your daughter. Men often fail to realise the impact having a baby has on a woman, it feels like your whole life has changed overnight which is pretty scary for anybody. Just reassure her that she is the most beautiful woman regardless of weight gain lol and be there to fetch the nappies/wipes etc. Plus you get the added bonus of the great daddy cuddles with less of the stress! Be supportive and attentive and you can't go wrong.
Haha, speaking from experience?
Well this just killed the thread...lol
As for OP, good luck buddy - I've heard the whole process is like a walk in the park!
Enjoy them when they are young, cause today they grow up too fast.
And keep them off Facebook, it steals their souls. :roll:
Is it just me or does "Stone Cold Stunner" sound like something you do to get pregnant?