[RL] Secret Lovers option isn't showing up

Hi Aurorabig​ 

could you post a picture of the profiles of them for each other ?

And this Unfair Affair is also a glitch, I believe. The two of them were on a Fitness Retreat, and Cletus flirted with another dude, and Flora, instead of getting jealous and hurt, just got that Embarrassed +4 moodlet "Caught with Another", there were no sentiments about it at all on either of their sides. No memories either. I know this is a separate issue, but I just wanted to let you know what happened with that secret thing. 

Seems they are already partners so that's probably why the option doesn't show up.

Could possibly this: [RL] Secret Lovers automatically become Partners when a sim dies | EA Forums - 13199965 or this [RL] Entering CAS/Loading in changes Secret Lovers into Partners | EA Forums - 13569735 

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He is married to another sim! They are partners now, but that option never appeared even before they became woohoo partners. They are partners only now because I kept adding to their relationship to get that option to show up. Plus, if one sim is married, shouldn't that option show at all times? 

To answer your suggestions: 1. No one died, 2. The option to be secret lovers was never available, they were never secret lovers. 

Any other suggestions? I found a couple of Reddit posts with the same issue, but neither had any solutions posted.  

Now that they are partners, it won't show up, you'll need to break them up again.

I don't really know how it works in details tbh. I've asked around a bit and from what I gathered, the option should show up, if either one is in a relationship and cheating. You should then get the option on the Sim that is in the relationship.