I don't know if it's a CC issue or a bug but when every I click on a different sim that's not in my family it will not show the wheel think that lets me chose what my sims say to the other sim. I've ...
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I've had a recent problem that might be related to this where when playing one particular sim, I click on another to interact, and it does eventually open, but it takes 3 or 4 real lime minutes. This sim has maxed reaper career. Thats the only think I can find different from her than any others. Is it just one sim or are there others in your household?
This sounds like a different issue. Please use this thread: https://answers.ea.com/t5/Bug-Reports/Lag-for-menu-to-show-up-when-clicking-on-Sims/td-p/13521755
Does sound very extreme though. Usually the lags are a few seconds. Are you also using mods/cc ?