BF4 Lost connection to server June 2022

Hello. I have a intel 4590 3.7 ghz cpu. 16 gb of ddr3 ram. 2 ssd at 500mb's sata 3. gt 1030 with latest drivers 516.40... IDT high definition audio. 24 bit audio 192000hz... 3.5 mb/s download, 400 kb/s upload. I do not share wifi with anyone else. Nothing else is using constant connection. cable/fiber.

While I'm in the test map I ran the system test and it said I had  a ping to server at 23 ms. Good ping. And a frame rate of no less than 71 on medium to high settings. 

I'm running the latest Windows 10 professional x64. With latest drivers updated. I read the other posts related to this problem after I installed origin on this pc. Then I downloaded origin and the BF3 game. I could not connect. So after 2 hours of frustration and the general consensus that BF3 won't work on windows 10. I searched if BF4 works on windows 10. It looked like it did. So I downloaded BF4. Just like BF3 I can play campaign but I can't play online. I can see the server list. I can see the latest news. Which suggest I'm not offline. But every time I try to connect to a server it shows the little two white bars on the top right screen and never connects to server. Instead I get the server message you didn't connect. No kidding. I have all the visual applications for all the latest games. So I clicked repaired on all the vc's files. It said finished that's all. I clicked on the direct X and still nothing new. I checked my drivers and they're up to date. I ran a clean boot with ESET anti virus running. I still could not connect. I ran a advanced rule to specifically allow BF4 to connect through ESET firewall but nothing. And usually ESET asks me if I want to allow program to connect, but this time nothing. 

I've tried the matching service even though when it came out it took forever to find matches. Now I get a quick answer. I get the same you lost connection after watching the two little white bars the black screen.

I bought BF3 and BF3 through Origin when it came out. I bought supreme commander forged alliance for steam and it still works in multiplayer. And I play in FAF and it works well online. The game came out in 2007. And I bought the game the same time as BF4 for seven dollars. I've paid well over $180 for both BF3 and BF4 and now this.

I reinstalled BF3. I get an automatic disconnect as soon as I click join server!!! 

IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN PLAY BATTLEFIELD IS BY BUYING BATTLEFIELD 2042??? 

Is this an embarrassing question to ask?  Are all the servers I see online from cracked pirated servers and game clients? Is that the only way to play BF4 or BF3 anymore?

Edit: I've been trying to play BF4 since yesterday. I've tried disabling my fire wall. Nope doesn't work. I get the auto screen (Black screen with white bar that moves up) and disconnect message. I can see the servers listed and the player count goes up and down LOL!!!  I disabled my anti virus ESET premium. Nothing. I still can't connect... I ran the windows scan through CMD and it fixed windows errors. But. Nothing. I still can't connect to game servers! 

Has my account been banned? I would get a message right? Did someone steal my account? Wouldn't I get a message someone is using your account. or a player is already signed in to this account ? 

I tried running the bf4 x64 under admin mode even though it's on my second SSD hard drive and doesn't need admin mode, duh! I ran origin on admin mode and it alerted me to the fact I'm running it on admin mode. Then I clicked on the Bf4 exe so I could run under admin mode. Nothing. I tried different windows modes, vista, 7, 8. Nothing has worked.