Dorian - Magister's birthright will not trigger

I am having the exact same problem. I speak with Dorian, tell him I want us to get to know each other better, which supposedly begins a romance with him. He warns that people will talk, I say "Let them" and he says something like "We'll see how this goes." I can talk to Dorian again and the exact same options are there to begin the romance as if I had not just had this conversation with him. I go downstairs to Solas' room and wait...nothing. I did a few side quests and returned to Solas's room...nothing. I went back up to Dorian but the only conversation option available is the same one I had already done repeatedly that supposedly begins the relationship with him. I went back to Solas' room. Nothing. I went to Val Royeaux to see if Ponchard was in the Vestibule. Nope. He's nowhere to be found. I double checked to be sure that Dorian's other two quests are complete, and they are. I have chosen every romance option in the past and never told him I wanted to keep it platonic or anything like that. I am 43 hours into the game and was considering starting over but then found out I can't restart with the inquisitor I have already built. I am so frustrated now that I don't even want to play this game anymore after waiting all this time for all the bugs to be worked out for the Game of the Year edition.