Any ideas please possible cheat???

sat here yesterday morning and started the one nation friendlies

i am on ps5 with cross play turned off

matching up 1 game the ping was 18ms that ok here i always seem to be between 15-30ms

as me and the opponent click through the ping shot up to 152ms

i started the game and showed my son i was holding down on the stick but my player selected was running up the screen and left ie 10 o clock direction

i loose the ballt he opponent runs through and scores im still on the same player and cant switch and cant change direction

he then pauses for me to quit...i know this is common practise  so i ignore the pause restart and all is ok but when i press pass its over 2 secs before i pass(not a usual small delay but long and exaggerated) he then gets the ball again and score im wayyyy to slow to catch him so i quit.....

next and all following games were fine win or loose

any ideas