Ok small update and some good news. My feeling is that 2560X1440 is the max the resolution this game be played at.
I just changed my settings in the game to 2560X1440p which means awful black borders as my native is 3840X1600 but I was able to play with zero crashes, but obviously that is terrible. To th guy who took out his 4080, please try that and see. Don't change it in NVIDA control panel, just change it in the game and play and see what happens.
Please EA fix this. Heat works fine at 3840X1600 there is no reason this should not work as well.