Trust me, I'm at least 7 years deep into everything you've just suggested right now. I'm OCD by nature, so if it CAN be done it HAS been done, you can bet your everything on that. I can probably tell better than the average person when something isn't right just by watching what happens on the screen relative to what happens on the controller. I'm very well aware.
It's the fact that these problems that players have have been documented for how many years now, and people at EA pass them off as something the user must be doing wrong. Think about all of the people that say that "this is the only game I have a problem with" and go from that fact. That has ALSO been overstated for almost a decade now, and here we still are having increasing problems of the SAME nature as we always have. If it was a user problem then the user would have these problems with EVERY game, but it's not like that. The fact that EA's games are the ONLY ones giving users issues leads to EA being the problem in some way.
I mean why doesn't my daughter have issues with any of her Call of Duty games...why doesn't my friend have any issues with Fortnite...why is Overwatch flawless online...I mean I'm sure you see the point I'm making here. You can't blame the user when this game series is the ONLY problem for the USER. You need to reevaluate the game at that point, and if nobody will do that then we are screwed as users, and so will EA in the end for not fixing the issue.