None of my sims have done crazy things (or I don't remember) in actual game, but many of them have done it in the bio (background), both male and female. Who dominateds the family/household usually depends on their age, abilities and social status, so there're also co-dominated.
Xiwu Lan is a soft-looking but actually a rough girl. Ye Chunyu is a domineering-looking milf with eight-pack abs but actually shy and reserved. But there are also "totally feminine" women like Jiangxue Han, or "I thought she was man" type women like Najwa El Hassan. This also applies to male sims