Hey all,
If you started seeing this behavior only after the October 11th patch, please use this thread instead as we are tracking these as 2 separate issues.
Anyone still having issue with this i might have something you can try...
i had same problem was tearing my hair out trying to solve it.
for me it was a hidden relationship bit sentiment that was causing it.
i found it purely by accident
my sims partner got flirted with and rejected the flirt yet my sim got jealous cheating buff and sentiment so i removed the buff and all sentiments (debug cheat remove all sentiments) but she was still doing the mean social in the middle of friendly and romance conversations
so next i checked hidden buffs and there was a hidden angry cheating buff, removed that and cleared all hidden buffs still kept happening
so like others have done i turned off auto mean for a while
it was when i aged up my sim to young adult i realised
when they get the silly happy relationship bits when they age up and pause actions you have them doing to think about family member for an hour
so i went in to remove the relationship bit first with her mother (who she was also kept being mean to) it was there i spotted another festering grudge buff, along with other sentiments) removed it and did same with her partner and noticed another angry cheating buff there so removed that too and bits for her partner and mother toward her and that sorted the problem
you need debug cheats to set the relationship bits unless anyone knows a regular cheat to do it
if you have debug cheats...
shift click on the sim that your sim is being mean to
go through the menu, find cheat relationship
remove relationship bit
see if in the list there is a angry sentiment and remove it
do the same the other way round too as i notice they still be mean sometimes if another sim has a hidden buff against them
and if you haven't already checked for hidden buffs you can use mccc buff control to see if there is one there and remove it or just use the Sims.remove_all_buffs cheat
this whole sentiments and lifestyle system is totally wreaking my game especially with an already f**d up romance and jealousy system
have turned off lifestyles in options but that doesn't work and yes i have a ton of mods i ain't even gonna bother with the game without mods so don't even anyone ask
i have to have mods to make some of my sims faithful then more mods to stop them being jealous when their faithful partner is being faithful and even more mods to block all the other ridiculous stuff the devs can't be bothered to fix..
@masonukanother thing i noticed that can make sims start being mean a lot over time since city living first came out is adult sims seem to have hidden character values like the ones kids and teens have. over time through bad conversations they go down same as kids and teens do which pushes them more to doing mean interactions. doing the remove all buffs cheats clears these too. if you run that cheat and look at the list of what is removed you see character values like negative empathy scores etc also removed.. i do this now and then on my mean, evil and hothead sims when they start doing my head in going ott with the mean interactions. it happens with positive trait sims also if they get into bad conversations... i've editted my hothead trait so they don't get pushed so much to start argument and don't get angry from mischief it makes them a whole lot more fun to play with as when angry they do more mischief instead of mean to sims they like and find a sim they dont like to take out their mean anger on
another thing you can do is put em all in a club and allow only friendly and funny socials and disallow mean socials this'll push up their character values for a while too. i do this with my huge mob family and run club gathering when they all start hating on each other. eventually you see even the mean and evil sims out and about having more friendly conversations for a while
