How did you age the toddler (naturally, cheat, cake) ? Cake (with two different toddlers at different times, same household)
Aging on or off ? Off. I always play with aging off
Which traits ? Fussy and Inquisitive
Any mods/cc ? (never, removed, yes) Removed and it still happened
Gender ? Male for the Inquisitive toddler and Female for the Fussy toddler (brother and sisters, not twins)
Normal or Alien ? Normal
This is the first time I've had this bug with the toddler traits still showing in the relationship panel. I actually checked both Sims after aging up with the Show Sim Info mod and they don't have the toddler traits any more, but they show up in the relationship panel still with other Sims.
No toddler moodlets carrying over on aging up, since they don't actually have the toddler traits any more, but the glitch in the relationship panel persists even after traveling, quitting and restarting, and so on. This seems to be kind of a random bug. I don't understand why it happens with some and not others.
Edit: After several Sim weeks the problem has resolved itself for now.