@PipMenace I think the purpose of the parent not doing it anyway is you can then have a chance to discipline your toddler after they refuse something and the next time you try they don't refuse or at least get to in my experience. It's probably because disciplining your toddler/child is in one of the aspirations. I get around most of it by having the toddlers ask for everything. That bypasses everything except being put to bed if you want to read them a story. Then I just calmly discipline them when they fuss about bed and my day is free of over powered toddlers plus my toddlers gain social faster because they are asking for so much. If I want to do the discipline part of the aspiration I just instruct the toddler to make a mess as many times as is needed.
You are right though. Even a first time parent still getting their bearings doesn't just give up on their plans when their toddler fusses. Although as a parent I did take the time to explain why something was necessary and then expected my toddler to be more willing. Sometimes yes, sometimes no, but the baths and bedtimes never changed. They might have had a brief hiccup, but my bath time and bed expectations didn't budge. The consistency probably helped in creating a routine to follow, but that's part of being a parent is teaching importance and routine. They are little people in their own right and I believe in patience.
However, there is no way to discipline a toddler when they throw their food on the floor nor should the parents be running to take their toddlers out just because they were asked the minute you put them in. That's ridiculous. There is no way to create routine if the parent doesn't leave them in their high chair or get to express it's bad to toss your food. Relying on their thinking stat for how much they do that without including a parent's ability to express that was wrong so they eat next time isn't acceptable. Letting them out every time they want out is neither helpful nor realistic. Most parents ask them to at least eat a little first because that is the purpose of a high chair...it's their eating spot. Which is why there should be a way to discipline them when they throw their food on the floor and a code check of some sort that they are ignored when asked to move to the other high chair or be let out until their hunger is filled to at least 90%.
