[OPEN] Parents refuse to care for toddler
Product: The Sims 4 Platform:PC Which language are you playing the game in? English How often does the bug occur? Often (50% - 99%) What is your current game version number? 1.53.115.1020 Wha...
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I had a problem with this a few days ago. I didn't think much of it at the time because I assumed I did a bunch of game play things that messed up the situation.
It started when reset all my game settings and this turned neighborhood stories back on. I didn't notice until people in my neighborhoods started having babies, adopting, dying in accidents, and elders started dying in droves. A family that got hit really hard was the Nishidaki family in Snowy Escape. The two elders adopted a toddler and then died. I was upset, I hadn't had a chance to play with the family and explore the feud between them and the Ito family before they had this horrible tragedy. The sims I was playing at the time had barely met them.
I tried to fix this through gameplay. I had a realm of magic family on holiday, and one of them had met Shigeru in the bath house, so I visited the family, found the gravestones, did necrocall, and then dedeathified them. I figured this would solve all the problems!
It did not, of course. Afterward I had to play the Nishidaki family, have Kaori invite Shigeru and Sachiko back into the family, which worked fine. The problem was the toddler. She would not stop crying at the gravestones and was Very Sad, even though mom and dad were back, and the relationships looked ok in the panel. No one in the house would look after her, even though I repeatedly directed all three adults to do it. The commands appeared in the queue but disappeared right away. I tried going into CAS and back, leaving the lot and going back, debugging everybody, and nothing worked. I even tried maxing all the toddler's skills thru cheats so she could at least look after herself, but she wouldn't interact with any of the items I placed on the lot. I ended up just deleting the toddler.
I don't have a file and can't send a saved game, I just marked the Nishidaki family as unplayed and continued with the vacation. I just assumed the situation was my fault, and tbh it probably was. Dedeathify probably shouldn't be used on random neighbors, especially unplayed ones.
(Unrelated but funny, imo: every time I accidentally turn on neighborhood stories, either Victor or Lily Feng instantly die and the one who lives gets a cat.)
I have experienced this issue every time I've ever played this game, on multiple computers through multiple uninstall/reinstalls and on different EA/Steam accounts... Parents and Nannies NEVER take care of the children. I've given up on ever having an infant in the house cause parents WILL NOT care for them. Toddlers I can at least micromanage the hell out of and use the tablets and force a Nanny into maxing out their skills until they Age Up. Infants I just age up as soon as possible cause there's no work around that I've found between defective Nannies and Neglectful Parents.
At first I thought the parents not taking care of kids was just funny, but now it's annoying. Cause I will queue the parent to feed the child and it'll take like, 5-10 in game hours to get it done. I recently discovered the Fill Needs cheat and OMG it's a godsend to take care of the kiddos.
If anyone has a fix for this I would love to hear it!
- @EverWolfy Sims logic is a bit backwards - adults can’t cancel infant/toddler queues but infants & toddlers can and often do cancel adult ones. It’s like, you want to feed me? No, I’m too busy crying about being hungry, so go away.
I’ve found it usually works a lot better if you play as the kid and request food/bath/bed. Though unfortunately you can’t request tummy time or crawling practice for infants - but if you cancel everything in the infant’s queue before asking the parent to interact with them (or just reset the infant) it works a bit better.May I ask how you reset Sims? And what all that entails? I've seen that a few times now but I'm not sure how to do that/what it all affects for the Sim. Like, would it affect Skill levels and relationships?
- @EverWolfy Simply shift+click on the sim and choose "reset". It will not change anything about your sim other than cancel queue actions and will sort of soft "debug" them into autonomous compliance. Some of the time this is not enough, but it does help me other times.
