I’ve always had this, and thought it was just a weakness in the basic design of the game rather than a bug per say. Because moodlets aren’t really targeted at anyone, they’re just general. So if a Sim becomes flirty because of flirting with their spouse - or, after the sentiments update, simply because of being near their spouse who they have a romantic sentiment with - they now are generically flirty and will flirt with everyone. Just like if they get an angry moodlet because someone insulted them, they’ll knock over their own trash can and insult their kids, while a happy/confident moodlet will see them act friendly even with the spouse that just cheated on them and the random stranger that just insulted them.
I had a Love trait mod, removing it I didn't have no more issues on the flirting behavier
Product: The Sims 4
Platform: Xbox Series S (Xbox Series X from May)
Which language are you playing the game in? English
How often does the bug occur? Often (50% - 99%)
What is your current game version number?1.71.6.2300
What expansions, game packs, and stuff packs do you have installed?
Courtyard Oasis, Island Living, Luxury Party, Laundry Day, Snowy Escape, Vintage Glamour, Nifty Knitting, Jungle Adventure, Realm of Magic, Bowling Night, Cats and Dogs, My First Pet, Outdoor Retreat, Country Kitchen, Throwback Fit, Toddler, Dream Home Decorator, Fitness, Romantic Garden, Dine Out, Movie Hangout, Discover University, Gnome on the Go, Perfect Patio, Spa Day, Kids Room, Industrial Loft, Parenthood, Backyard, Strangerville, Moschino, Animal Hats, Tiny Living, City Living, Get Famous, Life of the Party, Get to Work, Up all Night, Cottage Living, Get Together, Seasons, Cool Kitchen, Grims Guitar, Incheon Arrivals, Fashion Street, Blooming Rooms, Paranormal, Eco Living, Decor to the Max, Carnaval Streetwear, Moonlight Chic, Wedding Stories, Desert Luxe, Pastel Pop, Everyday Clutter, Little Campers (Edit: Growing Together and Greenhouse Haven added May)
How can we find the bug ourselves?
Attend a social gathering or have a family group conversation where a couple is present.
What happens when the bug occurs?
Sims conversations are on autopilot. Interactions I set for them are replaced by random flirty interactions, leading to romance relationship bars appearing suddenly half full with random Sims. Children are also caught up in flirty conversation and it turns awkward and negatively impacts the relationship.
What do you expect to see?
I expect total control over my game. I expect my Sims romantic preference to dictate their romantic interest and not be ignored. I certainly do not expect flirty conversation with minors.
Have you installed any customization with the game, e.g. Custom Content or Mods? On console, never used
Did this issue appear after a specific patch or change you made to your system? No.
It's been happening for a long time in my game. I have to really keep an eye on the conversations. But it is worse since patch 1.71. The chats seem to run away with themselves now. I'd say they are 75% automatic.
Today for example my Sim was at the Starlight Awards sitting in the chairs and actors began chatting with her, I'd shut them down but they'd start again. Before I knew it she was in a romantic interest relationship with the person next to her, against her romantic preferences. I looked everywhere for the Ask Just to be Friends command and finally found it. It then said they'd decided to end their romantic involvement. She had literally just started chatting.
It's also bothering me because she kept getting flirty teens around her because of her celebrity status and I was having to quickly shut down the chats to stop them flirting with her. She's a DJ and while behind the decks she gets a lot of chats starting autonomously, some flirty and she'll stop the tasks I've given her to chat of her own accord. Same with her Meet and Greet events.
I'm having the same problem with mischief interactions too and I'll add that again on the appropriate thread. I've previously reported it with mean interactions too. The whole conversation thing is a real problem and this shake up in patch 1.71 was a missed opportunity to put it right.
I have no NAPs set and it doesn't matter what their traits are. I never make romantic Sims or aspirations because it's been such a problem. They have flirty conversation options with all Sims regardless of their romantic preferences.
Parents cannot be in the same room together without flirting in conversations that include children or simply having flirty moods while tending to children and infants. Parents in a couple also become randomly flirty while their partner is not present.
(Edited May)
I've just tried the infant life stage for the first time. Can we please do something about the flirty dynamic while around children?
Everytime my Sims are in the same room together they cannot calm themselves down. It's absolutely cringe. Daddy is taking care of the nappy changes with the maximum Flirty moodlets.
Can nobody see how inappropriate that is and for the love of Simlish, tone it down? I have to keep getting him cold showers but they don't work as soon as both parents are in the nursery they are off again with the flirty vibe.
So I had to start keeping them totally separate around the infant.
I've switched households now. Taking care of infants was time consuming enough without having to throw cold water over the parents.
Ugh, shudder, please find a solution.
