Sims continue actions when the game is paused, even though nothing visible moves

No, I can use the other speed options and the game does visually stop and pause, just some effects happen that shouldn't if it were paused, like a sim turning into a ghost without having a death animation or getting relationship bar updates before they've actually said the interaction. I do not have a maid. I don't use 3 speed unless everyone is asleep or working because it seems to cause a lot of glitches, like the one someone posted about progress bars being full but not completing