The Kindness Bench for SimLit Writers - For All Games!
What is a kindness bench? Kindness benches are inspired by the Buddy Bench movement which is in practice in many schools. With Buddy Benches, children who need someone to play with or talk to at lu...
Most of the stories I have the most enjoyment writing are about abuse and overcoming it. And that's all because I was abused (all but physical) althroughout my life, and I overcame all of it -- with some mental scars, naturally. So writing helps me get through the depression and it slowly heals the open wounds with minimal scaring because to me, it's like I'm talking about it without saying details about my own abuses. So I guess it's safe to say that I pour more of my tears, my heart and my soul into those types of stories over the others.
It was all awful because at the time, I didn't know what was happening to me. I didn't know the signs of abuse because I thought there was only really physical abuse -- which was dumb of younger me because I watched a looooooot of character study type of movies as a kid.
This spoiler is going to be super personal but it definitely helps me to explain why I didn't realize sexual abuse was actually happening to me.
I was sexually abused as a child(5-6)by a childhood "friend" a couple years(7-8) older than me. So all sexual abuse after that I thought was normal. I never told my parents, and there's only 4 people that know the details of the childhood abuse and the abuse from my ex. Me, the abusers, my best friend, and my husband.
After all of the abuse ended (I still get the occasional verbal from my dad during his bipolar episodes.) I now understand the signs to look for so I don't fall into another abusive friendship/relationship. It helped me understand other victims of abuse, and to find ways for them to overcome it -- like my characters in my stories.
