The Kindness Bench for SimLit Writers - For All Games!
What is a kindness bench? Kindness benches are inspired by the Buddy Bench movement which is in practice in many schools. With Buddy Benches, children who need someone to play with or talk to at lu...
@BabyDollAnne *hugs* Mental abuse is still abuse like everyone has already said, but I know acknowledging it, while helpful, doesn't take away the pain.
I was mentally abused by an ex of mine and I remember it sucked because I always thought that it was somehow my fault. It's taken a lot of years, counseling, prayer, and a patient husband to help me through the pain, worry, and self-doubt. I still catch myself on occasion second guessing myself and feeling anxious about certain circumstances brought on by certain triggers and the momentary weight of the past trauma is brutal. This is that internalization thing that others have been talking about, and it can be crippling at times, even still for me.
I think the important thing to remember is it's not my fault, just like it's not your fault. It's the abuser's fault. Once I removed the blame from myself, the shame was lifted also, and although the pain still remains and jabs at me from time to time, I've found healing, though the scars will always be there I think.
I plan to delve into this subject a bit in my Sims story actually as part of a way to raise awareness but also because it's therapeutic for me, at this stage, to talk about it. I don't know where you're at in your journey through this, but I hope and pray you can find a therapeutic and healthy outlet to move through the pain and trauma and I wish you peace, recovery, and healing.
EDIT: I have no idea why the forums took s.u.c.k.e.d. and changed it to plum.
