"BabyDollAnne;15017664" wrote:
*sits down and pops cookies next to me, trying to lure you all out*
So. I'm desperately alone. I feel like I only have 2 people who care about me in the world. Ones in Cyprus right now, and the other one is permenantly in the US when i'm in the UK. I'm alone without either for most of the day and I just..
Amn't coping by myself.
It's such a shameful thing to admit. My boyfriend goes on holiday for 2 weeks, my best friend goes camping over night and i'm a blubbering mess of loneliness.
Buuut thats me.
*turns on fan, to spread the fresh cookie smell.*
I love cookies! I wish I could send you a freshbaked batch because I love baking them too - and find it incredibly relaxing. So virtual cookies! I agree with @CathyTea that you have plenty of virtual friends who care about you. I know what you mean about feeling lonely though and the importance of offscreen friends also. My husband recently pushed me out of my shell (well, recently as in the last year) and encouraged me to try making more friends. It took me awhile, but I found one person offscreen who I can relate to who lives close by. Only making one friend in a year doesn't seem like much, but to me, it's a huge accomplishment.
I digress.
Find a new activity or an event you can go to in your area. I joined a D&D group (after I said I would never do it... lol... I've officially gone over to the geek side) and that's how I made my newest friend. I've been thinking about taking a yoga class too. There's also a local writer's group I'm thinking about visiting once. I'm still pretty introverted and I dislike small talk, but I find that if I try to be a friend to several people, usually I get one little nibble back at least. And most importantly, just be yourself.
Learn to love yourself. This is a tough one, at least it has been for me. As an introvert, I crave my alone time, but I still get lonely. I've had to remind myself that it's okay to be alone, and when I feel alone and crave people but can't be with them, that there are things I can do to love on myself. In the first few months of my marriage umpteen years ago, my husband worked long and crazy hours and I was stuck in a Pennsylvania winter without a car and no friends. It was a lonely adjustment period of my life, but I decided to teach myself to bake. I grew to love it - and now it's something I do regularly. Baking has even helped me make a friend or two over time. :) Find something to fill your time away from others. It can be anything that brings you joy and pleasure. I find snuggling with my cat or going on short walks helps too.
And yes, you have us here online. We'll send loads of virtual hugs and we'll lend sympathetic ears. I thoroughly enjoy the SimLit and the Sims community, and have found since I've started writing, commenting, and interacting, I've really thrived in all areas of my life. It's nice to find a likeminded community sharing a love of a game. You can always find someone here who's willing to listen and talk. :)
