Small or Large families?

Apparently, I'm not happy unless I'm juggling things. LOL I do use the MCCC mod and it helps a great deal. I also have full autonomy on, as well. The thing that bothers me is if I follow one Sim to work, the toddlers end up in the red. Some of them so bad that I've had to break my own 'rules' of never using the Make Happy cheat on them. Even if they're sent to DayCare, which should be unnecessary, because a parent is left with them. I've had tots return from DayCare in pretty bad shape, needs-wise.