Why is it rude to cook at somebodys house?

@marcel21 you are right I don’t have to, but if my sim is visiting another household that I’m also playing, I do have to because I will get that notification that “so and so is hungry and if you don’t feed her soon she will be taken away”, even though that kid is NOT part of my currently played household. I don’t want to go back to that household later to find the toddler had been taken away, so it is an issue; and sims need to be smarter about feeding their own kids.

"JC1979;c-17403674" wrote:
@marcel21 you are right I don’t have to, but if my sim is visiting another household that I’m also playing, I do have to because I will get that notification that “so and so is hungry and if you don’t feed her soon she will be taken away”, even though that kid is NOT part of my currently played household. I don’t want to go back to that household later to find the toddler had been taken away, so it is an issue; and sims need to be smarter about feeding their own kids.

That drives me nuts. When I get the notification, I end the visit and leave usually lol. (They self care apparently if my sims aren't there as the kids don't get taken unless I'm in the home)

Question has anyone tried paying the host houses family long enough to give your sim a residence key and then gone back to your Sim. Would that solve it? Or not? just an idea I had but I can't get on to check right now

It's super annoying. I feel like it's fine for sims you don't know well or aren't in relationships/friendships with but it really doesn't make sense that an adult sim can't cook at her parent's house without them getting upset.

I must confess that I would have been a bit shocked if someonwe visiting me in RL suddenly disappeared and a bit later could be found cooking food in my kitchen... But seriously, I think it would be fun to have our sim (or guest) suggesting to the other that they could cook something together.

Btw: There is a trait that allows your sim to behave like home at other sim's houses.

"GalacticGal;c-17400935" wrote:
First time my friend helped herself in my mother's kitchen I was aghast. This was in RL. I was raised you just don't do that, nor do you touch the items on your friend's dresser top. You don't peek into cabinets in their bathroom, either. Also, we never, ever, EVER just walked in. Took me a very long time to even just walk-in at my parents' house after I moved out. Even then I would knock as I was opening the door.

It's strange to think of the societal rules of good behavior that once were. This appears to be a hold-over, especially when the Sims are family. That one doesn't make sense to me, despite how I was raised. If our Sims were given the interaction to 'ask' first, but there isn't such an interaction, else they should be free to prepare food. It's very hard when the active Sim is the 'guest' and the host Sim is starving, for instance. The natural response is to have the active Sim fix some food. Just to be scolded and/or asked to leave the premises. :open_mouth:

When my homeless SIm visted some of the other Sims (when they were all always welcome before a patch) those Sims were very hungry but wouldn't cook. I thought my Sim was being nice by offereing to cook a meal. lol It would be great if they would now patch a code to be able to ask ,may I use your bathroom? Of course we all ask, even family in RL. Or at least may I cook a meal for you? That would be great.

"StrawberryYogurt;c-17401111" wrote:

"Cinebar;c-17400867" wrote:


It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

Idk why it wasnt in TS4 since inception, but its always been in the series is what I meant.

Sims in 1&2 can't visit. It's a carry over from TS3 to be inapproraiate and get thrown out. lol TS3 Sims were always throwing out my Sims. I think it's a very poor host/hostess who never ask/offers my Sim a drink, or food, or to use the bathroom, or to rest. Poor hospitality. lol

yea funny how this sound my sims were invited for dinner person almost burn the house down so thought to make my help with the cooking but nope didn't get kicked out but npc sure got steamed at her doing so like why willing burn a house down but don't want help so I made my sims leave to a to eat at restaurant. even part of a club invited over thought allowed to but nope my sims sat there be bored out her mind. But I invite a sim over there all over place touch bookcase or taking trash out or swimming my pool like are you serious is keep these locked or don't invite anyone over anymore only her bf or his GF another person like heck nope.

Hmm, guess I grew up around a group of people that were different than the "norm". I had a couple of my friends parents come straight out and say "If you go hungry, it's your own fault. You know were the kitchen is.". Granted, I never just wandered into the kitchen to grab something to eat unless my friend was getting something also.

Anyway, like others said, if it becomes a problem I just buy or cheat in Always Welcome.

I had a Sim join that cooking club, and the first meeting was at Clara's house. What do you do at a cooking club? Well obviously you get told off by the host for trying to cook, even though the rest of the club is doing the same.

*eyeroll*

I just buy the Always Welcome trait, then try not to abuse it. Except for comedy. Anything for comedy.

I always thought this was a stupid feature. I used to have my sims (me and my brothers) go to grandma's house and attempted to take food out of the refrigerator and sleep in the bed. They would always get yelled at. I also made a cooking club in the sims 4 and whenever I was invited to another sim's house, I would get yelled at for being inappropriate. How can it be inappropriate when you are doing cooking club?

Friends and family should get higher privileges than a stranger off the street.