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TygerNight's avatar
TygerNight
6 years ago

My Sim parents sometimes refuse to hug a toddler back :(

It seems trivial I guess but out of every 3 or 4 times I have a toddler hug a parent (to fulfill a whim) the parent refuses the poor kid. It gives them a double negative hit to their relationship (2 ...
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Kane_Magus
Seasoned Novice
5 years ago

It's even worse now with the whole "Sentiments" system in place. I just had a toddler try to hug her mother, and not only did the mother refuse, which caused a dip in their relationship, the mother got the "Hurt" sentiment toward the child, the tooltip text for which is: "<mother> feels wronged by <toddler>. and being around <toddler> will remind <mother> of that pain." All this because the mother refused the toddler's offer of a hug. It's asinine. (If anything, it should have been the toddler that got the "Hurt" sentiment toward the mother.)

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Gednaa
Seasoned Ace
4 years ago

My toddler asked the parent for a hug and the parent refused, which was bad enough, but then I looked and the parent had a festering grudge against the toddler.  It's heartbreaking to see this happen in my game with parents that are family orientated and good.  A festering grudge for being asked for a hug from a toddler????  That's cruel and I don't want to see this happen in my game as I keep everyone's traits correct to be parents. They have emotional control too, so I don't understand how this is happening.  I've had it happen with two toddlers by the same parent now.  I feel like kicking him out at the moment! Yet it's him that keeps getting whims to have babies!!  I had a pretty bad childhood and like some players, like to play The Sims to live out a life that I would have liked, so this is upsetting.  I took them to the park, they were all having a lovely time playing then BOOM! hug rejected and festering grudge!  What on earth is going on?  This would/should never happen in real life, so why is it happening in a game that I'm supposed to be in control of?

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    Gednaa
    Seasoned Ace
    4 years ago

    Parent has been kicked out now and a marriage is in ruins.  I really don't know where this is festering grudge and not hugging toddlers is coming from, but there will be no more children (which pains me) until this bug is fixed. Sad times in my sims game. ☹️

  • SheriGR's avatar
    SheriGR
    Hero
    4 years ago

    @Gednaa I'm sorry this is happening! I had a couple of questions... 

    • Do you have any Mods/CC? It so have you tested the issue without them?
    • How long has the issue been happening? Is it since a certain update?
    • Does this issue happen with any other Sim? I'm wondering if there's a possibility the Sim has something buggy going on, has a hidden trait, or it's some odd whim issue, etc.? 

    If it's not a widespread issue and just this Sim bugging out, I would try a few things:

    • Try resetting the Sim
    • You could delete the Sim and add a new dad and cheat in the relationship.
    • You could try adding a Mod that allows you to check for hidden traits and see if that's the issue: Show/Search Sim Info Mod
    • You could try saving the family/household into your library and placing them in a new game save and see if this resets the Sim/clears out the Sim's issues/bugginess.

    Please let us know how it goes!

    • wahini2024's avatar
      wahini2024
      4 years ago
      @SheriGR Oh I had this really bad with one family. One toddler, a twin, was a hugger and it gave a bitter grudge to the dad and hurt sentiment to his twin. Just because he hugged them 3x in a row.
      What?
      That toddler constantly experienced shared sadness for his twin and father who had some negative sentiment moodlets when near that child. It was so awful I manually removed the sentiments. I try to avoid this now when I see a toddler who wants to hug more than twice and stop it in the queue but it's ridiculous that it would cause such negative results.
      • SheriGR's avatar
        SheriGR
        Hero
        4 years ago

        @wahini2024 I agree that is sad and frustrating. If there cannot be any glitch found (you could try the troubleshooting steps I mentioned above), and if it is therefore an intended design or oversight, I think it's great that this issue is placed here as feedback and hope that this would then be considered for adjustment in future updates.

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