will try that ASAP. but I received an email from EA, that they removed my ban! 
the save loaded perfectly without any cc, but now I need to try and add my cc in. I deleted a mod that I downloaded a few days ago, that was causing major lag.. hopefully that will work!
put my cc back in, and I had the same problem. i'm gonna try to "repair" the game under origin, but I doubt that will work
the game loaded for a good 15 minutes and did nothing, so I had to turn off my PC to even get it to close.. I repaired and updated my game and I think it made it worse.
I tried loading my game AGAIN, and it loaded for almost 2 hours. and didn't do anything, so, again, I had to turn off my PC.