sims slow

@Kaitlen18  Thanks for providing the dxdiag, which shows that the Sims 4 crashes reference a component of Windows.  That component is unlikely to be corrupt, but still, it's worth running a couple of basic checks of your Windows system files:

• Hit Windows key-X
• Choose either “PowerShell (Administrator)” or “Windows Terminal (Administrator),” whichever option is offered
• Inside the window that appears, copy and paste “DISM.exe /Online /Cleanup-image /Restorehealth” without quotes, and enter
• The system will start validating soon. If it throws an error, please list it here
• After it reaches 100%, hit Windows key-X again
• Again, choose “PowerShell (Administrator)” or “Windows Terminal (Administrator)”
• Inside the window, copy and paste “sfc /scannow” without quotes, and enter
• Post the message you receive here

Restart your computer, hit Windows key-i, select Update & Security, and click the box to check for updates.  If any install, restart again afterwards.

Please also clear the EA App's cache:

https://help.ea.com/en-us/help/faq/clear-cache-to-fix-problems-with-your-games/

and repair the game: open your App game library, click Sims 4, and select Manage > Repair.

Please test first in a new save with no mods or custom content present.  Test immediately after restarting your computer, with nothing else open aside from the EA App.  Your laptop's 4 GB RAM may be part of the problem here, and it may help to keep as much memory free as possible while playing.  The limited RAM is definitely not all of the problem, considering the errors in your dxdiag, but it's not helping either.