Okay update: I don't have a graphics card, only the intel HD graphics that comes with my pc. It's an all in on with windows 8. Anyhoo I was finally able to run the game, create a sim (installed one of my custom skins that was saved from another pc) without crashing, moved her into a house and then saved the game and left her there and went to play with one of the precreated characters. I was paranoid it would crash so I kept saving it every five seconds. Was even able to go downtown, befriended the sim I created with "Darren" and the game still ran fine. It did crash once because I was fiddling with something, but when I went back in it was still working. I played for about an hour and then saved and closed because I had to run errands.
What I did was, according to the youtube video, changed compatibility to windows sp 3, changed the game to run in a window, run as admin (I had to select this if I wanted to run the game windowed). I am running sims2 deluxe. So far so good, praying it will stay that way. I'm guessing my next challenge will be testing out the ep's. I have all of them except apartments. I'll keep you updated! Thanks again for your help.