Unhelpful help from "friends"

I do sometimes find the behavior you describe to be mildly exasperating, but I figure that at least the neighbors in question are visiting rather than not visiting my town. And is the amount of money involved really enough to get upset about? Not for me. In addition, I don't think you've really identified an increasing trend in this kind of behavior. A subset of people has always done this; heck some have even boasted about it on the forums. I do, however, like the idea of the game developers grafting the V-Day name labels onto the handshake icons, allowing us to see who is visiting our towns and what they are tapping on while there.