My roommate and I have been having this issue for literal months since closed playtesting. We have not been able to play together -other than a handful of flukes- the entirety of the time we've both had access to the game.
This is actually the first post I've seen that mentions this specific issue.
We have not been able to find a workaround either, although it seems like sometimes if you both press start at the same time you may end up in the same server together. That worked for us a few times, but hasn't worked in the last few weeks.
