BF3 WON'T JOIN ANY SERVERS

I am frustrated to the point of breaking my computer and everything in my house with the EA label on it. I paid for this damn good game, but of course the PC version is mauled by EA and turned into this crap that won't EVEN WORK. EVERY SINGLE TIME I try to p,ay the game I have to uninstall/reinstall EVERY RELEVANT FILE to play the game. Sometimes I have to switch browsers as well. I HAVE ONLY OWNED IT ON PC FOR 4 DAYS AND I AM ALREADY FED UP WITH IT. It is such a good game, which is why I played it so much on Xbox, but now, I can't even JOIN A DAMN SERVER! I fixed this issue already 5 times and still it says "Game Disconnected" Could Not Join Server" EVERY SINGLE DAMN TIME! When I first played the game, it was fine, but every other time after that, the issue starting ONLY 10 hours after my first time playing, I would join a server, I'd click the BF3 icon, and no image of the current map would show. Just a black screen and "Loading." EVERY TIME. I TRIED EVERYTHING. Port Forward ALL the relevant ports, uninstall/reinstall origin, BF3, and the battelog plugins. I DID IT ALL, yet I still can't play a game that's been out for two years because IT JOINS FROM A DAMN WEBSITE! WHY?! WHY COULDN'T THEY BE NORMAL?! This is absolutely, completely frustrating, and I don't see why I paid to deal with this **bleep**. I should be refunded if I have to complete a maze of fixes EVERY TIME I PLAY THE GOD DAMN GAME!!!!