no online for battlefield 3 its been 45 days now

Well, I am honest here. I would like to help you with that, but at the moment i still have no idea what server you are tracing/pathpinging. It seems like you are using the UO Trace tool. If you are having issues with Battlefield 3 server, please use the IP address of the specific Battlefield 3 server (you can find this on the server page in Battlelog or in-game on consoles), everything else will be non-relevant. 

Open a command box (Windows + R, enter cmd and press Enter) and type in: pathping -n IP (IP = server IP address from the Battlelog server page)

Wait until it's finished, this will take a few minutes. Right-click, mark and copy&paste the result into your reply. For best results, please do this right after you were disconnected from the server. 

Also, can you please confirm that you are NOT kicked by Punkbuster directly after joining a server, for example because some files are not updated. You would see an error message in the lower right corner in Battlelog, indicating a Punkbuster kick. If that's the case, please copy & paste the full error message here. 

when I use the server ip it doesn't even load anything

Host Name                        IP Address        Hop    Ping Time   Ping Avg   % Loss    Pkts r/s   Ping best/worst
dslrouter.westell.com            192.168.1.1       1      0ms
L100.SANGTX-DSL-03.verizon-gni.ne108.12.79.1       2      23ms
at-2-2-0-1718.DFW9-CORE-RTR1.veri130.81.198.176    3      41ms
xe-5-1-2-0.DFW9-BB-RTR1.verizon-g130.81.199.52     4      66ms
0.xe-3-1-2.XT1.DCA5.ALTER.NET    152.63.3.97       5      78ms
TenGigE0-4-2-0.GW5.DCA5.ALTER.NET152.63.4.105      6      82ms
dft-gw.customer.alter.net        152.179.164.162   7      79ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           8      0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           9      0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           10     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           11     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           12     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           13     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           14     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           15     0ms

this is what I get with this server , 159.153.225.30

Host Name                        IP Address        Hop    Ping Time   Ping Avg   % Loss    Pkts r/s   Ping best/worst
dslrouter.westell.com            192.168.1.1       1      0ms         0ms        0%        53 / 53    0ms / 6ms
L100.SANGTX-DSL-03.verizon-gni.ne108.12.79.1       2      23ms        25ms       0%        53 / 53    22ms / 80ms
at-2-2-0-1718.DFW9-CORE-RTR1.veri130.81.198.176    3      42ms        41ms       0%        53 / 53    40ms / 56ms
xe-5-1-2-0.DFW9-BB-RTR1.verizon-g130.81.199.52     4      45ms        45ms       0%        53 / 53    40ms / 106ms
0.xe-3-1-2.XT1.DCA5.ALTER.NET    152.63.3.97       5      78ms        88ms       0%        53 / 53    77ms / 156ms
TenGigE0-6-2-0.GW5.DCA5.ALTER.NET152.63.38.178     6      78ms        81ms       0%        53 / 53    77ms / 99ms
dft-gw.customer.alter.net        152.179.164.162   7      79ms        81ms       0%        53 / 53    79ms / 101ms
* Unknown Host *                 159.153.93.2      8      80ms                   100%      0 / 52
* Unknown Host *                 159.153.225.30    9      80ms        84ms       1%        51 / 52    80ms / 250ms

this is what I get when I uo trace 159.153.226.1

Host Name                        IP Address        Hop    Ping Time   Ping Avg   % Loss    Pkts r/s   Ping best/worst
dslrouter.westell.com            192.168.1.1       1      0ms
L100.SANGTX-DSL-03.verizon-gni.ne108.12.79.1       2      70ms
at-2-2-0-1719.DFW9-CORE-RTR2.veri130.81.198.178    3      54ms
xe-5-1-1-0.DFW9-BB-RTR2.verizon-g130.81.199.54     4      39ms
0.ge-1-3-0.XT2.DCA5.ALTER.NET    152.63.40.42      5      77ms
TenGigE0-5-0-0.GW5.DCA5.ALTER.NET152.63.38.202     6      98ms
dft-gw.customer.alter.net        152.179.164.162   7      79ms
* Unknown Host *                 159.153.93.2      8      80ms
* Unknown Host *                 159.153.225.22    9      80ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           10     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           11     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           12     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           13     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           14     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           15     0ms
* Unknown Host *                 0.0.0.0           16     0ms

when I uo trace the rest of the hops they all work good !

countless , wasted many hrs trying to figure this out , my xbox live is up working good with a good open nat works good on all other online games but battlefield 3

I have had this same issue with BF4 for the past month....