Can you accidentally miss Leliana's butler decision?

Have never heard of anyone missing this conversation... Interesting. Wonder if that will mean she's hardened by default?
There are so many different decisions in the game (such as whether to do Champions of the Just or In Hushed Whispers), are you really only going to play it once? Can always soften her in a different playthrough if you've missed it this time. 😉 Really, the hardening/softening of Leliana doesn't have a huge impact on the game, there's one personal quest of hers later on where it makes a difference, and it can possibly make a difference in the end of game slides, depending on... things. (Don't know how much you know, so trying not to spoil things for you).

As I remember it, the conversation happens after you catch her praying/being mad at her god. An agent runs up to her, they talk about a traitor, and after a bit you can speak to her and influence her decision on what to do with said traitor. I've never missed it, so no idea if it re-triggers. I'm thinking it won't, though. 
If you're really curious, you can PM me a link to your save file and I take a look at whether Leliana has been softened or not. Won't change anything (well, I probably could, but I won't), but at least you'll know.

I have attached a current save file.  Please tell me everything you can.  If you know how to fix it so the game acts as if I told Leliana not to kill Butler, please do so. If you can flip a byte and guarantee her as softened, that would be acceptable too... 

I know I sound like a little wiener, but the number two reason why I restarted after nearly 200 hr of play was because I did not like how Left Hand of the Divine turned out (number 1 was to get the juicy late patch items I missed). This has just been really frustrating... if you want I can include the save that shows the ridiculous situation in detail, but I doubt anyone at Bioware will fix it. I swear this seems like an easy fix with a console command. I guess EA won't let Bioware publish this information like they used to...

OK, I can try making her softened, I've never tried it before so I don't know if it'll work (keep a backup copy of your saves. Generally a good idea anyway, as things do like to go wrong).

DAI uses a new engine (Frostbite 3 or something) than the other games, hence the lack of console commands. They're just not built in like with the previous engine. Probably also why modding is so much harder, too.
PM incoming.