This is certainly something EA need to nerf into the ground. I am surprised it has not been done before now. It's terrible and rewards unimaginative football.
In the meantime while you wait for a fix. If you get the lead just keep hold of the ball and pass it around your defense in to midfield and back very carefully and just make the opponent either quit or put their gamepad down. And the reason you are doing that is to protest the stupid unrealistic goals they are scoring on you.
2 wrongs don't make a right. However, you are stopping them from driving you insane scoring more of those stupid chip up acrobatic goals.