Ya sometimes large posts can get auto-marked as spam... you seem to have done your homework so I doubt anything from these links will help (but they're still worth glossing over just in case)
http://help.ea.com/en-us/help/faq/connection-troubleshooting-basic
http://www.help.ea.com/en-us/help/console/connection-troubleshooting-advanced-xbox
This is more of a peer to peer help forum so I feel compelled to point you in the direction of an EA Game Advisor and/or @EA_Aljo (ie people who actually know what they are doing), https://help.ea.com/en/contact-us/
If it helps at all, my traces also showed large amounts of congestion when zayo.com was involved (wired connection, under 10 ping avg, ports opened)
