Club wars - Feedback

Me and my club LOVE the wars! And I wonder if all the ppl with critics ever played a game where you battle each other? There is no blood, no killing, no real loose in game. But, I do understand that ppl who want to play the way they used to do, get frustrated about finding them self in a war the did not ask for, being attacked by another city. And that is my complain, so far, our club has won all the battles and each time we hope to meet a city that fights back, looking forward to meet them, but no... Last attack we gained nearly 50 000 points and opponent about half and now we find our self, 14 players  battling 5 players and that is not fair for either them or us. We are so disappointed that your system is not able to pair  more equal clubs together, anything we can do about it? Is it possible to let, either clubs or all players to choose if they want to battle or not?