teejoe4 wrote:
stormwench wrote:
teejoe4 wrote:
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I've yet to put any smaller items on my list simply because I don't feel "ready" to be gifted. I don't think I've been active enough yet in the community to deserve someone's kindness. I think if I have a bunch of small items on my list, it may appear as though I'm fishing for gifts and I DEF don't want to appear that way, ESPECIALLY as a newbie. I'm not sure if that makes any sense whatsoever. :) It sounded good in my head. LOL.
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I can understand that but on the other hand gifters gift when they think you are ready :) - two sides to every coin. And when one reads a post they like or see you active in a lot of things and think you deserve a gift its a bit disheartening to check a wishlist that doesn't have some smaller things to get started with.
Since we tell all newbies to break down at least one set so they do have smaller things we can hardly think that you are 'fishing' for gifts. I know I don't look at a wishlist until I have already decided to gift someone and having a set broken down is just what I am looking for with new people, and so are most gifters. We don't surf wishlists we surf people and then check out a wishlist :)
And sometimes it works the other way around. If a person only has big sets on their wishlist gifters wonder if the person is just here to snap up a big gift and won't appreciate smaller gifts. :)
I can see how it could backfire on me with the perspective of someone much more knowledgable of the forum practices. :oops: And I do agree.
With that being said, I have taken your advice and added a handful of smaller items to my wishlist. :)
I do have a question though, there have been a few people in the forums who have helped me and others and I've thought about gifting them something. I'm not really sure if there is gifting etiquette, so my question is: Is it considered weird for a newbie to gift people?
To go along with that, is there a way to add a message so I can explain why I've chosen to gift?
And do I have to be friends with that particular person?
Thank you very much for your input into my way of thinking. I'm trying hard to start off on the right foot around here. :)
Its never weird to gift someone, whether you have been here for years or just started being here a few days. People all have their own things they look for that makes them want to gift, like great posts, humor, participation, a birthday, because they gifted the community of their own making - its up to you, as a gifter, what your criteria is :)
And I knw of only one reason not to gift someone and that would be when a stranger pops in and says 'will someone gift me this'. Its considered a bit rude and begging to specifically come here just to beg specific things. You will see one or two of these each time a new set is posted hoping they will catch a gifter who does not realize that giving them what they wants just makes them continue the rude behavior. And almost all the time they then disappear until there is another set they want.
You can find some of these if you go back a few pages and read the helpful advice people post to these people about getting involved and get known a bit and joining contests to win stuff. Unfortunately, that is usually to much trouble to go through in the hope of a gift and probably not the $30 one they wanted :) But te community always tried hard to steer these people in how to get involved and what this community is all about.
But other then a incident like this, no one is ever going to ever tell you that you gifted wrongly. Gifting is from a person's heart and each person has a reason they gifted someone and no one would ever say your reason was wrong.
