I need help with romance.

Hi @meljones

I am hoping another player comes along who can provide further advice on this issue than I can as in my game it's easy to establish friendships and romance relationships unless the sims are divorced/separated or have definite opposite traits so i am wondering if you it could be the traits between sims? Also wondering if you use any mods as they can affect relationships sometimes as well. I hope you manage to get it sorted and congrats at being able to play 3 again :)

What are their traits like?
Do you have University? If so do they have any points in any of the influences(like jocks or nerds) I find nerds like to berate ignorance and
that causes issues
Have you tried giving both sims hopeless romantic traits?

Does Hopeless romantic help? If so I will give everyone that trait. I am so used to S2 that I don't really remember what 3's trait system is like. I only use Overwatch, MC, and Relativity. I tend to avoid mods that require a lot of set up and stuff. I don't use SP for that reason but I might try the mod you suggested and see if I can figure it out. Thanks for the suggestions everyone.

It might help.I use it for all my romantic sims.
As for the mod above, that mod isn't suppose to be discussed on the site or linked to.
Most people refer to it as the "W" mod instead.

I haven't played ts3 for some time so not 100% sure but I think they get relationship points for things like watching sims play instruments or dancing together or playing games together so I'd try those cause I'm lazy and don't like tapping interactions all the time

also if sim is not on lot computer chatting is a friend for when you just need to get relationship up a little so they stop hating each other

Well whether or not my sims ever find love I am having a ton of fun playing 3 again. And I am definitely gonna check out the mod we aren't suppose to mention.

I don't know if it's just me but repeatedly switching through the chat options can be tiring and only add a few relationship points. I find pillow fighting useful when trying to push sims' relationship meter up. After the points are more than 60 or so, I try the "mild" romance options like asking zodiac signs, ask if they're single, flirtatious joke and then attack from there. >:)

With or without the romance element, TS3 sims will advance through relationship gains like crazy once they develop some Charisma skill and satisfy a couple of the skill challenges. After a certain point, most sims can befriend another practically by just walking past them or at least asking how their day was. At Level 0, where most of them would start out, yes building friendships is painfully slow. The skill needs a boost to get up to Level 1 such as by taking a Charisma class, reading the Volume 1 skill book, or practicing speeches in front of a mirror. After that, unless your sim is so socially awkward that they keep sticking their foot in their mouth during every conversation, the skill tends to build naturally through normal everyday conversations. Even more so in larger households where there's almost always someone around to talk to. :)

Ahh yes lets not forget all those dating phone calls that usually end up in the cemetery lol serial killer dates anyone :D

Do you know what stupid stuff Sims are getting mad about? Are you visiting another Sim's house? No mooch trait, right? (Getting mad at mooches isn't stupid.)

Wait, they removed the censorship of that word? I only used it because the OP did. :D

I suppose work on the friendships, take that time, build charisma if it suits the personality vision you have, and note that a high attraction score helps the friendship LTR boosts, too.