Random Question: How do YOU play large families?

I play with free will on max but I pause way too much to fill the queues. Sometimes I focus on just one sim somewhere (on a date, to hear a song on an instrument, etc.), but I keep cycling through my other sims without moving the camera to them just to check if they are not doing something dumb (like flirty sims cheating or mean spirited sims insulting their friends).