Oh man, I hate when that happens @cybergrrl! And yes, they've changed the rules on who is a member vs new member again and it really stinks. I understand why they restrict things like pictures and links from new members as trolls/spammers use those, but the quote thing is so weird to me. Like what would a spammer/troll get out of being able to quote people?! And you can still do it, it just looks ridiculous.
I think I made the risky chance in my game too high. One of the rules I'm playing by is that Adam risky woohoos with one of his wives every night but now they have eight kids... Thankfully the eldest is moving out in a few days! It was set at 20% but I've lowered it to 15% and we will see how that goes. Also there's one set of twins because someone turned on kid music and I didn't realize. I can't remember how to set a family size cap with the mods I have.