[ARCHIVED] Infant/Toddlers needs Declined While playing another lot

This is not daycare but being left at home with a parent.  I have a household of 2 parents and 1 infant.  When I go to another lot with 1 parent for only 2 sim hours, when I return the infant is on the floor (was in the crib sleeping and all the way in the green) and nearly dead (ALL NEEDS NEARLY ZERO) and the 1 parent I left at home is dressed in winter-wear (it is winter in game, but the parent was in bed sleeping ... in PJ's!) and standing in the middle of the room with lowered needs too.  Not as bad as the infant, but these people were completely in the green when I left -- TWO SIM HOURS AGO!  So frustrating!  Like others have said, I feel like I am chained to my lot if I have an infant (and so are my sims unless they are going to work).  Additionally, different family, same save game - 2 sim parents go out and the nanny calls the parent to see if they want to go to a festival.  Upon returning from work .. the kid is no where to be found!  I do pick up child command from the crib and my sim runs all the way down the street and around the corner where the baby was left in the road by the nanny and the nanny is bugged out and no where to be found!  I don't have growing together, just base game update.  At this rate, I highly doubt I am sinking money into yet another broken pack.