Yeah Grim didn't listen. HIs wife is a spellcaster but I didn't want to resurrect him and deal with the widow, grieving and all that stuff. So I just exited without saving. I "usualIy" save every time they go to sleep but since this last update causing the game to crash all of the time that has been iffy. I have zero problems with it happening to npcs as I can't stand 98% of them anyway. But for played households we should be able to disable it considering watching tv, joking with each other, taking a darn bubble bath and whatever else can easily cause them to die of laughter.