sims 4

Hello Sims 4 Team,

With things like this new Sims 4 update, Neutral Relationship Names, is there a way to toggle whether or not my spouse is called my husband or wife or my partner is called my boyfriend or girlfriend? It does not seem to give me the option based on my preferences.

Also, the same can be said to marriage and last names. Is there a way, other than going into create-a-sim, to change last names based on when they get married or the birth of a new child?

And my final question, is there a way to have a male sim raise a child. For example, when two sims in a relationship make a child, not through the make a science baby or through the world menu, can a male sim have the option of raising a child just born instead of them going home with the female sim?

I would appreciate any input you can give me.

Thank you.