Can we fine tune the eating/seating behavior, please?

Yes agreed - this really does need to get fixed. I just don't make my Sims eat that much if I want them to do something else.....I use UI cheats and drag the hunger bar up. It takes too long to get through a meal. & if everyone would sit down, I'd probably be happy, but they're up and they're hugging and then it's musical chairs. I'm ready to scream by this time. So I just removed eating from my Sims routine unless there's nothing going on and I'm in the mood to tolerate the madness