My Sims date prospective mates several times before I decide which one is the best candidate for marriage, and children, with a particular Sim. I usually start a new save with six main Sims, 3 males and 3 females. They become friends with one another and go out as a group on outings. Then I sit back and watch them interact to see if there are any natural attractions going on. If I see two Sims that seem to be seeking out one another, I'll send them off on a couple of dates by themselves and see how things go. If the attraction grows naturally, I will set them up in a home together. There's no rushing any Sims into getting married and having babies in my games. It is a slow process that I put a lot of time into so I can be sure the couple will remain happy. And I always allow my Sims to decide which gender they prefer. If that means my Sims date two or ten other Sims before I see any attraction, then that's just the way it goes. I have had a few Sims that prefer to be single and don't seem to be interested in a long term relationship, too. I don't use the non-committal trait as a rule, but I have come across Sims that would rather not be tied down.
