Tense. It's one thing if my sims just neglected their fun for too long, nothing a quick video game or TV watching session can't fix, but when they come home from work completely strung out and unable to function, I'm like "GAAAAH! Get over yourselves, you're home, have some fun or something!"
Then again, it's pretty realistic for people to feel like "not quite themselves" when they get home from work—gods know I constantly have that problem IRL, one reason I play more Sims on the weekend when I'm working a job in an actual office rather than remotely and have to commute.