I had another glitch this morning. I have a young sim just starting in the medical career, and for once -- when I played last week -- I really enjoyed going to work with her. She was able to accomplish all she needed to do that day. It was fun. So, I was eager to go to work with her again, but when I played her household this morning, she left for work without any notification coming up for me to join. I thought maybe it was because I was controlling her husband at the time, so I waited eagerly for the next morning's shift. The message that it was time for her to go to work came up, but as before, no option to "join" or "send alone". I closed my game, went to Origin, and did a repair. I'm hoping that might fix a few of these weird little glitches, but honestly, I'm not too optimistic.
Sorry that you're having a bit of a glitch too. It's really frustrating when dinners don't go as planned!