Thanks for the info! I just want my future evil vampire child to grow up badly. His father is Wolfgang Munch who has the mean trait so I figured it would be nice if he could discourage empathy and conflict resolution. I believe I tried to encourage making a mess once and the option wasn't there, but I was hoping someone else had tried more thoroughly and could advise on the options.
So it sounds like the main difference in discipline techniques is how the child thinks about the relationship with the parent. That sounds like a nice roleplaying touch. I'll have to do a little experimenting with the current children.